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Last weekend, viewers spotted the rectangular diamond ring on Ronda's finger during her SNL debut, causing a social media firestorm about whether or not Travis had proposed. Travis' estranged wife Jenna Renee Webb had also seen the ring and took to Instagram to share a photo of Ronda wearing the unique ring, writing: As in ''I promise not to hit you like my current wife'' ring?

The fitness model, who accused Travis of assaulting in her July, shared photos of herself with a black eye, bruised knee, and black-and-blue arms - all of which she claimed where the result of her husband's physical abuse. Jenna Renee also revealed that the alleged abuse was what prompted her to finally leave Travis. After Ronda's SNL appearance, Jenna Renee used the photo of the ring to congratulate Ronda and Travis for being open about their relationship, but she quickly reminded the world that she and her estranged husband are still married.

However, Travis has denied that he has ever been physically violent with his wife, and a UFC commissioned third-party investigation cleared him of the claims. There has been no police investigation. But despite the controversy, Ronda, who shockingly lost her UFC bantamweight champion title to Holly Holm this year, seems keen on standing by her man.

While the two looked distracted as they headed to the airport, their hand holding appears to be telling the world that they are still going strong. The views expressed in the contents above are those of our users and do not necessarily reflect the views of MailOnline.

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Learning your worth and value is so important. This is so helpful to see the impact of this. Hello Eric, Thank you for all of your relationship advice. I have someone that loves, respects, and is always there for me.

This article convinced me to live in the moment and enjoy every minute of it. Hi Eric Im from Iran, I read your websites and articles by accident.

But it was a great accident. At the same time My boy friend broke up with me and I could concure with my feeling with reading your articles. I also suggest your articles to my friends and every one i knew. I want to Thank you for opening my eyes to a new world.

Ive had two bad relationships, and honestly want something really casual with this guy from work I think is cute. Im also about to move cross country, and dont want a long distance relatiohip. I asked a guy friend to do some asking for me, and my friend said my crush reacted surprised but happy when my friend told him I liked him.

He said sure, yes, pulled out his phone and I just handed him my cell number. Im very new to all this, so what should I do? Ill see him at work tomorrow and dont want it to be awkward. In that scenario, is it okay to tell him I dont feel comfortable doing anything behind kissing right now?

My past two relationships abused me in this area, and I dont want to scare him off with messiness or by being too prudish. I have a question. You mention that women should not neglect to wear make-up to help themselves look their best. But I do want to look attractive for a man. Can you offer guidance on what style of make-up most normal men find attractive? Bright red lipstick vs more subdued tones? The best evidence for what men find most attractive is found in looking in places that have an exclusively male audience.

In this day and age, I would not look at mainstream media at all for guidance in what men find attractive. I would have the same advice for men, by the way…. So start there and I think you will be amazed at how different you find what men want versus what women-oriented media tells you. They have no political agenda they want to indoctrinate you with. With regards to androgeny… and this is not a political or social statement… it is biologically sexually repellant to look non-female.

If you want to attract men, emphasize your woman-ness. If you like the androgynous look and you want it for yourself, more power to you. In fact, there are some guy friends of mine that love women with the androgynous look. Just like there are some guys I know that love a woman with tattoos or any other presentation you can imagine. And, again, I have to emphasize you should focus on the NICHE of men you want to attract — pro-Athletes on average tend to like one type of woman… nerdy punk rock rebel type guys tend to prefer another… musicians tend to prefer another… and so on, so forth.

I can only tell you the best place to look — one free of corporate motivations and political-agendas. Hope it helps and good luck! Thanks a lot Eric. This article has really enlightened me now I know what my man wants.

Thanks for the comment. Thank you for all the info. You really know your stuff. I worked with him for 3 months before any of this happened. And then I saw a huge smile come on his face.

Our eyes meet then his eyes go straight down to my chest then a little lower and then he tilts his head and goes back up to my chest then breaks contact. What is that saying about this situation? What was he trying to tell me? What do u think? Lol oh and he used to talk about his wife always nagging and would tell his buddies that he very rarely has sex with her. Just some more info for you! I broke up with my ex 3 months ago. I found out he was cheating on me with a girl his been dating for 3 years.

After we broke up he went on a date with her to celebrate their 3 year anniversary but he told me they were celebrating 3 years of friendship which i do not believe. We started talking after our break up. I asked him if he still dating that girl he refused. I asked him back he refused because he wants to concentrate on his career and he says we might get back in future 3years from now.

I asked him if he really loved me and had feelings for me while we dated he said yes. Since then we have been talking. I told him i want to get over him but I have failed to do so because he always comes back into life such as him sending 25 pictures of himself.

I told him I found a rebound to get over him his response was ok. I sent him a message telling him I would have appreciated if you picked up my calls or told me me you would not come, the journey between us ends today.

Did i do anything wrong? Does he still love me? Does he want space? Does he still love his girlfriend who he calls the ex? My ex won me over my previous boyfriend. Lies turn me off but everytime he lied to me i did not get turned off. On 2 occasions he compared me to his ex just because she is intelligent and studying medicine and i am studying law and i keep repeating courses.

He even went to on to say i am threatened by her which is not true. I want to know why he has not responded to any of my calls and messages even though he has seen them? And is he worth it? I love him because of his personality. We both have a sense of humour.

We always make each other laugh. He carries himself in a respectful and responsible manner. He acts mature, but after all this I have gone through i am doubting if he is mature at all.

At that time i did not think he was cheating and i did not want any reassurance all I wanted was for me to talk to him just for my entertainment. Eric, a lot of this is true. Men are quite visual — they care about a pretty face and body over your income. They care about a warm smile and a soft tone over your job title or where you went to college. Unfortunately, a lot of confident, successful women find this to be a tricky balance.

How can we over-succeed a man without emasculating him? Most of what you said is support-driven. Especially the successful ones. I wish there was a better answer for the more nuanced city-style relationship. This is the crap that gets babbled about in magazines. Even still, it would be your best strategy to find a guy who will line up with what you want….

If he were to break up with me tomorrow and we were no longer dating and never would ever again, would I still like this person on a human level? Would I still find him interesting? Would I still find him good? Would I still want to be friends with him? Relationships are really simple and reveal themselves in plain view.

Always has been, always will be. BUT the more picky you are with the relationship style you want, the more picky you need to be about WHO you select… select well and everything is easy and effortless by effortless I mean that even the parts of the relationship that take work never feel like work… the whole spectrum of the relationship is joyful in its own ways, even the challenging parts ….

How am I going to go get it? I really love your articles. They are truly helpful and I love your way of talking about men and women without making silly generalizations… Thank you also for taking the time to write these. Two weeks ago he came to my place for dinner. He asked me if I had a boyfriend and then I asked him if he did. Would you have any advice for me? What should I do? Thank you so much. Eric, I found myself searching for the million dollar question we all want to know.

Now Eric, I must tell you. I am a 44 year old woman. And have been married twice. And divorced both times. My last hitting its 16 year mark that I have been single. Now I have had relationships here and there. I really do hate the whole dating game. I feel I know nothing more than I did when I was 16 about men. I actually found it very insightful. And I look forward to writting you back to let you know what happens. On the trip we really got to know each other, flirted and joked a little and since I was the only single girl there, he definitely paid extra attention to me by hiding my items or sitting on me or deliberately ripping me off and getting a reaction out of me.

Once we went home we talked for two weeks straight and then things started to dwindle. But eventually he wanted photos from me. Then when we went to another event together he picked up where we left off, sat next to me and only spoke to me. What does this mean? Am I wasting my time or am I making a mountain out of a molehill? First off — how long have you been going out? Less than a year and maybe even 2 years and I doubt you are on the same page.

How old are you two? If you are pretty young it is rare in this day and age to get married. Eric, keep up the great work.

Somewhere along the way, we made relationships difficult and confusing. Being open to it, loving ourselves and accepting it.

Thank you for making a difference. One thing about superficial aspects: So trying to get over him. He thought I thought he was a toy.. I just recently met a man online and I ended up sleeping with him on the first date. I really like this guy and I think there may be potential for us to mesh well. Thank you for your insight,a mans point of view is extremely helpful. Ive dated a man for 9 months,he is very good to me. He was married for 30 years,so dating is foreign to him it seems. However I was with him over a 4 day and night period,in which there was effort put forth by me sexually but hardly any by him towards me,totally different than usual.

Ive brought it out in conversation and we get interrupted phone calls and its not brought up by me or him. Thanks for your time T. If not, I cannot lose. For women who think they can just show up without working out or dressing well etc.

A good man deserves to feel good about his choices, just like women do. Nobody deserves the misery that comes from that situation. We should have just stayed friends. Instead we drove each other crazy for years.

Thanks so much Erik, for being a voice of reason in the sea of silly pandering. Your partner in crime has excellent advice, too! If I can offer some constructive criticism, though, that goofy movie has to go. I will leave a comment. I want a partner to go through life with. I want a friend, partner, and lover. It may be asking too much. Ultimately, my approach and opinion have remained the same: I want to help people by telling them what works and what is effective.

In that way, there were certain concepts that people would ask about or talk about that are not as discussed nowadays. Six years ago, people were frequently asking me to talk about the concept of neediness. If it were up to me, though, I never would have ventured to talk about neediness since a lot of what I talk about precludes neediness from being an issue if you approach a relationship effectively. Make your mood your top priority — live in a happy way.

When you make your mood your priority and you allow happiness to be your guide, it becomes really easy to naturally and effortlessly attract love into your life. When I find myself unhappy about something, I have taken your advice and looked inward. Then I choose happy and have actually been told I am fun by the person with whom I thought I was having an issue.

Everything you have said is the truth, but you left out the MOST important thing especially after having thrived for 20 years with a high market-value woman: Attitude is the underlying foundation for everything you have stated Eric, and when it comes down to it, [ladies] attitude informs and influences everything a man is drawing upon to approach, win, love and keep a woman. Conversely, a man who is drawn to a bad attitude has a mental instability — like immaturity or a sociopathy… I mean, really, who seeks out drama like that?!?

I need to know do I give him space or continue to chat? My boyfriend has so much interest in me but i get too emotional and it dos put him off. Thanks for your advice.. Does he loves me truly?? Thank you for your really good and insightful articles. I am a widow, aged He left his life behind, half a world away, to be with me. Then he left me after 6 months.

Then 5 weeks later came back to me. Then after 4 weeks, he left me again. The reason he wanted me was because he knows that I am a winner and he has always felt like a loser in life. I inspired him to be the best man he ever could be and beyond … He loved the way I understood his goals, aspirations and dreams. The way I supported and encouraged him. The way I was his biggest cheerleader!

So, why did he run away? I really enjoy your columns. I find them eye-opening and straight to the point. Your frankness is priceless. Today, I am feeling so tired. I have been reading all the help tips about relationships and I still feel like a woman of convenience.

We work together and he works 2 jobs, has no time and is exhausted all the time, so I am so tired of doing all the work. Our relationship has died down and while I am trying to be supportive and encourage him, I am beat. I am a very upbeat gal and have lots of friends; however, I am a giver and I think that is hurting me.

I am trying to hold back from that, but it is hard for me and I do it without thinking. He is very handsome and women are always throwing themselves at him. I think I have given up at this point. I am tired of the cancellations and promises that he does not keep. I get my hopes up and then they come crashing down. I stay busy and do other things but I am disappointed.

I am so sorry to be so negative, it is nothing to do with your advice, I think your advice is wonderful. I am tired of being the one that has to do all the work. I know he likes me, but maybe that is what it is, he likes me and that is the furthest it is going to go. I have been so upbeat through this whole thing, and now, I am beaten down. It is too much work! This is a really good article, so technically what your saying is a woman should really learn how to belive in herself be happy with her life and love herself a men will be interested in that and want to be with her because she can help him grow she inspires him to do better ….

So this is why I say making your mood the primary focus of your life is so important for relationships: Conversely, if your mood is great, it will shine through all of your other great qualities and you will shine brightly and attract love from every angle. Eric- The article is great. Precise and on point. I totally get what you are saying and although I thought I understood men, I was missing the final piece of the puzzle the winning part.

What do you do in that type of situation? I had the same question. You said not to focus on his career. I might have misunderstood that. Perfect…exactly what I did! Thanks for the article! I have one question, and it is a bit long.

So, there are three very beautiful girls standing side by side. Each one has an entirely different personality, but they look identical. The first one is extremely confident and outgoing. She knows she is beautiful, smart, and an amazing person, but she can seem a little bitchy at times. No matter how many times you compliment her, she refuses to believe it. She is kinda depressed, although she does an amazing job of hiding it. She is the kind of girl who would help everyone, despite the fact that she is in serious need of help herself but she would never ask.

Then the third girl is very complicated. She knows that she is beautiful, but sometimes she refuses to admit it. She likes to joke around about it too. She is hyperactive but also calm. She is humble but confident, and she is very smart.

She is a sweet person, but sometimes a little bitch can show up. She immediately apologizes and feels bad if she says something rude, or if she hurts someone. She tries her best to fix broken friendships even if they are beyond repair She alway tries to help, and she puts others before herself. A little greediness can show up once in a while, and sometimes she cries over random things. She is emotional and moody. When she is in a relationship, she loves with all her heart.

Her heart is very fragile. When it gets broken it takes forever to heal, and she builds bigger walls every time. She is both shy and outgoing, depending on the situation. Now that you have the details, I would like to know which girl you like the most.

Remember, all of them are gorgeous in your eyes. We have a sort of relationship,but not in public. We talk and text on telefon,meet each other for dinner or just a cup of coffee. I sleep over once in a while. He knows that I want to make plans with him, want him to make me a priority. He has told me things from a earlier relationship. He has had hope for a new start. I think he is a man that needs time to trust a woman again,but do you think i just hope to much? You are already being a doormat.

That is NOT a relationship. You have your answer. Yes, you are hoping too much. Thank You for your answer. I can see why your answer is like that.

I wonder if we humans are to busy finding love, so we miss someone good, kind and gentle along the road……. I asked for advice. Your answer is to cut him off. Whom are you Carrie? We talk but he want me to fulfill his needs, then we can move on to the next step. I could not agree more with most above statements. No one is attracted to desperation. I live a full, juicy, vibrant life outside, of dating.

More, than one man at a time non sexually until exclusive. Anyhow, great article and I agree with points. Have a good evening! I actually even like just imagining showing someone something I truly enjoy, for this reason — it feels new each time. Especially if the guy tends to be more introverted, i. I disagree about sex being such a high-priority item in relationship building. Based on my own observation and experience, if sex comes first, the relationship tends to stop there and not develop any further, 1.

After talking to many thousands of men and women, I can tell you there are more examples than I can count of happy committed couples that had sex on the first date. They committed to a deeper relationship not because of the sex, but because of the relationship.

My opinion on it and all of what I write is just my opinion is that it puts the focus on the wrong things. Worse, it maintains the false idea that the most valuable aspect of her is her sex and not the actual reasons why a man would want to choose her as a woman to connect to. Loved the introvert statement. Intorvert women are the same.

It actually took a lot of energy for me to tell a guy that I felt that he was holding back. My live in boyfriend of 2 years issed me goodbye one morning to play golf with friend, said he loved me then didnt come home for 4 nights. We did have the not ready talk the night before, but he said he didnt want to brreak up and I was the one.

He thad told me he bought the ring I picked out but wasnt ready to get married. I told him we could still engaged and have a long engagement. Two weeeks before he he gave me a card that said he couldnt imagine life without me and he was looking forward to the future. He knows I hate it when he goes out and doesnt come home becausse he drank to much. He was ignoring my 2 phone calls and my texts asking him what was going on and why he wasnt coming home. He responded he was fine and would be home later, then didnt come again and I saw pictures with him out with friends.

He was spending days and nights at his parents and his sisters. So on the 5th day I packed his stuff up, found the ring and took evverything to his parents. He did text that afternoon saying he was coming to change for work and no other comment.

By then I had changed the locks and had his things packed. I gave the ring to his mom and his things said I didnt know what happened, but deserved a conversation. He has never talked to me since and it has been 3 months. We loved each other and had a plan for the future. Should I have moved him out or waited? This has happened before and we had broken up in the past because of similiar issues. We are both the I am an RN and getting my masters. He has another year to get his undergrad and is a bartender at our country club where my family belongs, where I met him.

I have reached out and he responded that we could get our schedules together and talk. I sent him some times, but he never called. Im just trying to understand how we could from A to Z like that…. I kknow he was planning on coming home when he left!

Was it a little of both…. When women stop over analyzing their moves and a stop caring about a guys intentions Is when we can actually enjoy the relationship for what it is and stop depending on it for happiness.

Because they think of you as a positive moment in time and then want to spend more time with you. Weirdest of all is: I only recently discovered this myself, with my new guy. As a woman with a life of her own, takes care of herself physically, a mother of an almost 22 yr old boy; I will tell you, you hit every nail on the head Eric!

I appreciate every article still have many to catch up on to the fullest. A woman should want to keep her man interested at all stages in the relationship. Keep up the great work! Hey Eric, I have looked at your Facebook page mainly out of curiosity, and I am starting to see why you have the point of view you do.

Not to say I disagree with what you are saying I agree whit a lot of it. But you seem to have this opinion of how you like woman to look and make it out to be that this is how most men feel.

So I wonder do most men really feel this way or do you write about what you like because it is your job, to share your knowledge of what men want. Also I am sure the men you are around like a similar lifestyle to you weather they are married or not. I feel that most men do want women who are completely themselves but still take pride in their appearance. I feel like an ugly hater who rags on beautiful women, which is not the case you can look on my Facebook I am not.

Also I have been asked by my boyfriend many times why I try so hard and spend time doing my make up and hair when I am a mom and no one expects me to, he says I should just be natural. So my question to that is why does he say that? I hope to hear your I out on this! Sexual attraction is an important factor in a relationship, but far from the only important factor.

Same goes for everyone. Saying loose weight or dress sexy is insulting, I am a mother of two I have been pregnant the past two years. I am not heavy set but I do weigh more than before I had children. I feel this is how shallow men feel. My man hates heavy make up and sexy clothes. He is far more into me dressing casual or even sporty.

It all comes down to the same thing pleasing your man. Being healthy is far more important than being thin and no they are not the same thing. At least not to me. It feels shallow after a while. However, I am not sure young girls will understand it cause this is something that comes with experience in life. Wish I had read this 10 years ago, it would have made my life considerably easier then ;-.

Wow you hit the hammer on the nail. Gotta up my market value. Than for this article. I think the article vividly points out why most of my female friends have one failure after another in relationship, and they always end up in the same way: Most of the women devalue themselves without knowing it, and they rarely think about what they can offer in a relationship.

The sex, the looks both can encourage relationships, but neither can keep men or sustain relationships. Dear Eric, I have been reading your articles and you keep saying, wear makeup and be feminine. I used to wear makeup but recently, there has been such a hype going around that men like women with no makeup at all.

Apparently they think when you put makeup on, either you are hiding something or trying too hard, which comes off as a turn off. And I said, 'Yeah, that's great,'" she said. The highlight of my career was sitting home and getting paid by two companies. Holly also discussed her favorite moments from her time with the WWE.

She explained that most of her favorite experiences happened off-screen, but she pointed to her on-screen relationship with Spike Dudley as the best time of her career. The two of them were involved in a love story amidst a heated rivalry between her cousins, Crash Holly and Hardcore Holly, and Spike's brothers, The Dudley Boyz. A lot of my favorite moments didn't have anything to do with being on TV. Or wherever these gigs took me.

I would be the one who would skip the gym to go see the sites," she said.

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